So I met this girl about 3 months ago via a mutual friend. We both go to the same college and at first I though she was cute but didn’t think anything more of it. Then a couple weeks later she started facebook chatting, instant messaging, or texting me almost every day. She would usually be the one to initiate it. She would ask me questions like what I was up to, how long i’d been doing an activity, what I like to do, etc. She would also sometimes tell me sort of personal information, but nothing like pouring her heart out to me or telling me deep dark secrets. There would typically be a minute or two between our responses but often we were doing homework at the same time. We didn’t see each other in person very often, though. She asked if I wanted to go to her sorority’s formal (although I technically wasn’t her date, she didn’t have a date, and I was the "date" of the mutual friend who introduced us). Eventually we started seeing each other more in person (she invited me to lunch together, we played in the snow), but it was always with friends there too and she wouldn’t talk to me much while we were together in person but would instant message or text me later and be quite friendly and refer to what we had done that day.
I did kind of ask her out once (I asked if she wanted to do homework together) and she said that she had rehearsal for a show that night but she suggested we eat lunch together the next day (which we did but in the dining hall) and said "maybe we can do homework together some other time "
Then finals week we started hanging out more and she became a lot more talkative and friendly around me (although again we were with friends). Over the last week of winter break she was in my hometown visiting a friend and we got together quite a bit and she was being herself more (although again this was with friends).
She also told me that she will be really busy the first month of this semester. One reason I think she might not be into me is when we were watching a movie together her feet were on my lap and I was kinda holding them (I do not know why). She didn’t pull away at all until I stopped about 5 minutes later but afterwards she said it was a little weird ( I thought it was too but didn’t say anything). Also, she is really easily distracted from what we were originally planning to do, especially by her friends who live near me (however if I leave her to do my own thing while she is thus distracted, she will text me to find out where I am). One day we were walking together in the rain and she was complaining to me about how when her hair gets wet it goes all curly (I told her that I though it looked nice and she said thanks and stopped talking about it).
However, when I was leaving college for break she came when I asked her to come to the bus stop to say goodbye. When we talk she compliments me (but not all the time) and she will laugh at my jokes often and smile or laugh when I do something stupid or make a fool of myself. She sends me pictures that she takes. She pokes me playfully and will sometimes pet my hair (she will also do that to the other girls in our group of friends but none of the other girls do these things to me). She also adjusts her hair (but not necessarily play with it) a lot when I’m around. Recently we were discussing a reading we had to do for a class and she sent me a quote that talked about love being our pursuit of wholeness. Does this girl like me or does she just want to stay good friends? I can’t figure this out, help me please.
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